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Chicup · 08-24-2005, 04:08 PM

At first I had no desire to see Mrs. Chicup with another man. It didn't overly bother me, but I still had that vanilla streak of jealousy which of course was insecurity.

After we played a couple of times and we really became much closer because of it, I now enjoy her enjoying herself. I've even set up MFM's for her with a good friend of ours (who is part of a LS couple we play with) and get a kick out of how much fun she has. Prior to this I would have NEVER dreamed of setting up an MFM.

Once the insecurities question is answered and you realize your marriage has nothing to do with sex but is a true union between you and your spouse, and you don't have to worry about her liking someone else better (or whatever your personal insecurities are) you can really enjoy the experience.

08-24-2005, 04:08 PM	#14 (permalink)
Chicup Not a potential *** Join Date: Nov 2001 Posts: 2,441 Location: Under the bed Status: Tired	Re: Do you ever get used to seeing your partner with someone else? At first I had no desire to see Mrs. Chicup with another man. It didn't overly bother me, but I still had that vanilla streak of jealousy which of course was insecurity. After we played a couple of times and we really became much closer because of it, I now enjoy her enjoying herself. I've even set up MFM's for her with a good friend of ours (who is part of a LS couple we play with) and get a kick out of how much fun she has. Prior to this I would have NEVER dreamed of setting up an MFM. Once the insecurities question is answered and you realize your marriage has nothing to do with sex but is a true union between you and your spouse, and you don't have to worry about her liking someone else better (or whatever your personal insecurities are) you can really enjoy the experience.