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Originally Posted by Paramour2_99 To Starlinn - I'm trying not to be judgemental although it may seap out in some of my comments. I've been there in swinging so I can still reflect upon recreation that we had at that time. I'm no better than anyone - but I'm just trying to walk a different path. When I was in the thick of it I may not have wanted to hear the negatives about swinging either. But then again - I never had that option as no one attempted to talk me/us out of it. So I'm here to enlighten, particullary the newbies, then darker side of the lifestyle, after all we're dealing with marriages, health issues, and the morality of this behavior. |
As WildMiCouple said, I think you're preachin' to the wrong crowd. Maybe swinging sucked for you and your wife, or you were both approaching it in such a way that it began to detract from your relationship, but I MUST insist that this is simply not the case for
all swingers. You feel that you are enlightened? Surely no more enlightened than many of us do about the advantages of responsible non-monogamy. And surely our convictions are no less strong than yours are.
Perhaps you feel that none of us have weighed and considered our moral and ethical obligations to ourselves, to our spouses, to our families, and to mankind as a whole. If you feel in the depth of your heart and soul that sex beyond your own marriage is wrong, then it most assuredly is...for you. As I said, we must all live according to our individual consciences; it's all we can do, as God has made no two souls alike.
If you've read much of this board before, you will have found that while we are pro-swinging, our encouragement is well tempered with advice to NOT proceed with swinging activity if there is any doubt about the integrity of one's relationship, either partner's motives, or any sense of religious/spiritual conflict. Our goal is not to ensnare innocent bystanders, nor "corrupt" (although that term is used playfully, but never in seriousness), nor recruit new members. We are simply people who have found something that works for us, and we would like to share that experience with others if they feel it might suit them, too.
"Swinging is not for everyone." I wonder if there's actually any way to call up exactly how many times that phrase has been posted.