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Originally Posted by ALilOEverything I too think it was great to have met you both! So much fun to cut a rug with the two of you  |
We had so much fun meeting you also…It was great to talk and dance with you!!!
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Originally Posted by ALilOEverything I want to hear all about your first date. How long did you get to know each other over the computer, where did you go out? Did you kiss on the first date? Was it love at first sight? |
We emailed back and forth over a matter of 2 weeks or so. And I’m not talking about 1 or 2 emails a day – I’m talking about 15 to 20 a day…talking about everything, asking questions, sharing stories. We spoke on the phone a few times also and it seemed that we would never run out of anything to say. We had a date set up for a Friday night, but I couldn’t wait. So on a Wednesday, my ex had gotten the kids to finish out Spring Break with him, so I emailed James and asked him to meet me for drinks that night instead of waiting until Friday. He was game for that. So we met at a restaurant that I used to work at, but where the staff still knew me (my safety thing
) I was there before James was, so I chose a good vantage point so I could see him when he walked in. My first thought when I saw him was wow, he IS cute, followed by my heart pounding with the next thought being – yep, he’s the one. So for me it was love at first sight – although I was already half in love with him through our correspondence. We spend about 4 hours there just talking and really getting to know each other. We made plans for the next night, St. Patrick’s Day, to go and have green beer to celebrate the day. We ended that date with a very nice first kiss – one that we still laugh about. I went to kiss him, and when I did, James about jumped out of his skin. The gentleman in him wasn’t sure how to end our evening, but I being the type of person that I am, made the decision for him. We haven’t been apart since that night.
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Originally Posted by ALilOEverything Jenn, did you ever have fantasies about swinging before you met James? You said it was brought up the next month, who presented the idea and how responsive was the other person to the idea at first. |
James brought up swinging to me. At first, I had serious reservations because of what had happened in my first marriage. In my first marriage, we were both terribly unhappy and decided to try an open relationship to see if we could try to solve some of our problems, hindsight tells me now that was a horrible idea, although the marriage would have ended no matter what, it was in its final stages at the time. But I had always fantasized about 2somes, 3somes and moresomes. So when James brought it up, I was hesitant. He had a couple that he knew from before who were swingers that had invited us to go to a club. I figured that I would go to see what it was all about. We had a great time, we didn’t play, but everyone was so open and friendly so I decided to do more research on swinging. That’s when I found this board. I registered and the rest is history J I read, read and read some more. I learned a lot from reading this forum and the various threads. There seemed to be a thread for every question that I had. Then the Meet Up in Memphis came along and that was really the turning point for me. I met people like me that were open-minded and were in solid relationships. We went home that night and discussed our boundaries (which have been tweaked as time has gone on) and got even more involved with the board. We also got our Swing Lifestyle ad going then too.
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Originally Posted by ALilOEverything Do you have any reservations about that first get together with a couple? |
We had one soft swap experience in early June (we posted about that) and it was an uncomfortable experience but it gave us opportunities to communicate about what we liked and didn’t like about it. And just recently we had our first full swap, same room experience a couple of weekend ago. I think the only reservation we had was that we were constantly making sure that this is what we wanted, and kept asking each other. But then again, I don’t see that as a reservation – just good communication
But we had an excellent experience. Now - We’ve been to different socials and have made some very good friends, but haven’t played with anyone else yet. But we are looking!!!!
