The Swingers Board - View Single Post - Told him he had to choose between me and swinging

twoplayful2 · 08-21-2005, 03:17 PM

Without having read most of the replies...

It seems like it would be pretty difficult to get someone who's been a swinger to stop being a swinger. Not impossible, but tough. I guess it would depend on how strongly he feels about you compared with how much he likes swinging. But you definitely shouldn't make this a test to figure that out (I'm not suggesting that's what you're doing though).

If you have strong feelings for him, why not learn a little more about swinging and test out the waters a little bit before giving up on it? I'm not saying to jump right in, but if you're not a swinger it's likely that you know next-to-nothing about swinging or how you'd truely feel about it if you were in those situations yourself. There is a lot of great information in this forum and a lot of great people willing to try to help you with any questions and concerns you may have. Beyond that, venture into things just a tad, doesn't have to be actually having sex of any sorts with other people. Test your feelings out instead of just assuming things.

Lastly, if at any point you're 100% certain it's not something you want to do, absolutely do not do it. It's not something you get into to make someone else happy. Then make it completely clear to him that this is the case and go from there.

08-21-2005, 03:17 PM	#9 (permalink)
twoplayful2 Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Jan 2005 Posts: 218 Location: Riverside, CA Status: couple Swing Lifestyle Name:twoplayful2	Re: need some friendly advice Without having read most of the replies... It seems like it would be pretty difficult to get someone who's been a swinger to stop being a swinger. Not impossible, but tough. I guess it would depend on how strongly he feels about you compared with how much he likes swinging. But you definitely shouldn't make this a test to figure that out (I'm not suggesting that's what you're doing though). If you have strong feelings for him, why not learn a little more about swinging and test out the waters a little bit before giving up on it? I'm not saying to jump right in, but if you're not a swinger it's likely that you know next-to-nothing about swinging or how you'd truely feel about it if you were in those situations yourself. There is a lot of great information in this forum and a lot of great people willing to try to help you with any questions and concerns you may have. Beyond that, venture into things just a tad, doesn't have to be actually having sex of any sorts with other people. Test your feelings out instead of just assuming things. Lastly, if at any point you're 100% certain it's not something you want to do, absolutely do not do it. It's not something you get into to make someone else happy. Then make it completely clear to him that this is the case and go from there.