Welcome paramour! Lots of dittos to the above posts. One of the great things about this board is that the advice that people find here is well-rounded. The more diverse the community the better!
But I'd like to especially dito Spoomonkey's post; hopefully we won't need fire extinguishers for any posts. I think as long as everyone agrees that opinions are just that: opinion, thing's'll be just hunky dory. And, of course, we must admit that none of our opinions - regardless of how strongly we believe in them - are fact only to ourselves, and might be considered fiction by others.
As far as Christianity goes, I think God's got bigger things to worry about than our bodily functions (ie: sex). I think He cares less about what we do than why we do it. I have no trouble sleeping nights. I figure God told us not to screw other people outside of marriage because of STD's. Well, that and the fact that humans are a jealous, petty, and covetous lot. So instead of listening to the kids squabble about "he stole my toy", "yeah, well HE took MY toy first!", "yeah but..." etc, the Big Guy just said, "Ok, ok, O K!! Just shut up already! NEITHER of you is allowed to touch each others' toys...OK?? Y'Happy now?" Honestly we're like a bunch of kids and I think we're driving Him nuts.
So anyway, yeah, Mr. intuition and I are taking exception to that rule. I think I understand why the rule was in place, what the reason was behind it, and we've decided to not abide by it. Yes, we may burn in hell for all eternity for our decision, but we must all live by according to our consciences, and obeying this rule did not feel as true and honourable to our marriage as disobeying. We just hope that God understands our motives and intentions.
Anyhoo, glad to have you on board!