The Swingers Board - View Single Post - She wants to be with others but isn't ready for him to be

masscpl469 · 08-19-2005, 10:18 AM

Hey all,

If there is "Full Swap", can there be 3/4 Swap?

Male half of a 40ish couple here that have been more into the MFM or small GB scene. She has played alone with other couples in the past, but does not want to do that anymore. We have been with one other couple before but it wasn't full swap; she had intercourse with the other guy, I did not have intercourse with the other woman.

My GF wants to be with another couple, but is not entirely comfortable with me screwing the other woman. Oral sex, etc is fine. She can have intercourse with the other guy and I'm fine with that. I suggested "Soft Swap" - oral only with anyone (except for the guy-guy thing). I think that if my GF and the other guy go "full swap", then the other woman would think that "fair is fair" and expect and want to do the same with me.

My questions are: Is this something that others have experienced? Is it a common thing? I do NOT want to be the odd man out or "take one for the team". If I'm involved with all the activity going on except for full-swap I'd be perfectly content. I truly do not think that I would start to feel resentful that I wasn't getting "my fair share" of fun. After all, I have enjoyed the MFM thing and sometimes just enjoy watching.

Do others that are more experienced think this is something that could work long term with another couple, or would expectations come out as time went on?

Thanks all for your thoughts.

08-19-2005, 10:18 AM	#1 (permalink)
masscpl469 Registered User Join Date: Nov 2004 Posts: 2 Location: MA	She wants to be with others but isn't ready for him to be Hey all, If there is "Full Swap", can there be 3/4 Swap? Male half of a 40ish couple here that have been more into the MFM or small GB scene. She has played alone with other couples in the past, but does not want to do that anymore. We have been with one other couple before but it wasn't full swap; she had intercourse with the other guy, I did not have intercourse with the other woman. My GF wants to be with another couple, but is not entirely comfortable with me screwing the other woman. Oral sex, etc is fine. She can have intercourse with the other guy and I'm fine with that. I suggested "Soft Swap" - oral only with anyone (except for the guy-guy thing). I think that if my GF and the other guy go "full swap", then the other woman would think that "fair is fair" and expect and want to do the same with me. My questions are: Is this something that others have experienced? Is it a common thing? I do NOT want to be the odd man out or "take one for the team". If I'm involved with all the activity going on except for full-swap I'd be perfectly content. I truly do not think that I would start to feel resentful that I wasn't getting "my fair share" of fun. After all, I have enjoyed the MFM thing and sometimes just enjoy watching. Do others that are more experienced think this is something that could work long term with another couple, or would expectations come out as time went on? Thanks all for your thoughts.