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Originally Posted by EvilMJ I am I reading that right..you have been together since March and married in June. SO we are talking a couple of months? If this is correct..did you know each other before you got together..and why such a quick time between dating and marriage.
BTW James- I love the bald head, very sexy !! |
James - Yes we did in fact have a short courtship. We both are very much in love and I feel as though I have know Jenn all my life. We actually met online, we e mailed and talked on the phone for about a month before we actually met in person. Once we did meet there was an instant bond between us. It is hard to explan but it is like the most romantic movie, my soulmate has come into my life and it really did not seem like it was fast. At least not to us, before the wedding some of our friends asked us if we were rushing things, we both agreed, not at all. When you know deep down in your heart and soul you were meant to be together, why put off the inevitable. As a funny story: I first contacted Jenn and she shot me down...but as we joke now "absolutely persistent man" finally got through...and thank God I was persistent.
Thank you for the compliment on my bald head..lol. I told Jenn I was going to shave it, but she would not let me until after the wedding..lol. It is growing on her.
Jenn - Yes, we met in March and married in June. Seems sort of crazy to most people but its just one of those things that was right.
We met through Yahoo Personals and yes, the first time he contacted me - I shot him down. When he saw that I was active on the personals again, he contacted me again. I figured that if anyone was that persistent, I ought to give him a chance. We emailed back and forth and talked on the phone for quite some time before we actually met. We met and it was "love at first sight." I believed in it, but had never experienced it until the moment I met James. Our first date ended chastely - with me giving him a kiss that made him about jump out of his skin
A couple of days later, something came up in my life (that I would rather not discuss - probably the only thing that I won't talk about on here) and he supported me in whatever decision I made. For a man to do what he did for me, a woman that he only knew a few days, without question or reservation, pretty much cemented it for me. I was head over heels in love with him.
We had originally planned on getting married on New Year's Eve, but decided we didn't want to wait. We got engaged on my birthday, May 27th and were married on June 25th. There were a multitude of reasons - he was already living with my 3 boys and I and we wanted them to have a good example, my health insurance sucked, and then finally - who wants to wait on marrying the love of your life!!!! We had a wonderful wedding - outdoors and all the people that mattered were there. I now have a sister that I affectionetly call "The Wedding Nazi," but without her - it would not have been near as beautiful. Another one of my sisters got ordained and married us. It was a family affair to say the least.
Alot of people think that we are crazy to even bring swinging into our relationship at such an early stage, I disagree. We have the kind of relationship that is solid and works very well for us. Swinging was something that I had always been interested in and James had some experience. We have both been married before, both were very bad marriages. Some people learn from their prior mistakes and learning experiences, and we are two of those people. We both knew what we did wrong and the things that our former spouses did that damaged our prior relationships. We took those experiences and grew from them. We always have communicated well and since day one have been each others best friends. Swinging seems very natural to us and its an adventure that we share. I know that there are those people out there that won't play with a couple as "new" as us, and we do understand that. But if they got to know us - I think they would be surprised.
MJ - Yeah - the bald head IS very sexy...it just took me a bit to get used to it. But now I like it, I like it alot!!!!! Sorry about the book that I just wrote, but I hope that answers your question.