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It can be difficult sometimes to remember to be compassionate and empathetic towards those who have not yet separated love and sex. You'll hear that term a lot here: "separating love and sex". Before you do it, taking deep love out of sex and the sex out of love can seem pretty scary. But once it's done, and you see the advantages of it, it can be hard for some to remember what it was like before. It's true, it seems natural to us.
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that i think is the biggest part here and i have searched for that and continue to do so. He has told me that ...that love is more then sex...and sex is not love....and that he loves me ... since we have been together he has not played and will not play without me ....i know that is the case and i know he means it ...he has turned down a recent play time telling them I was not ready yet ....
Thank-you so much and anything else you can think of please let me know
one note before i leave you alone..lol..
i have read about newbies and how everyone feels about newbies...
i wanted to let him know that i am willing to give him my all to become a total part of our life together .. as you have mentioned before i need to just confront this with him one and one and let him know i am ready to move in his direction with the understanding and with the "hold my hand walk me through and teach me" and allow me the time to make part of my life ...but
with me being a newbie i was also thinking of asking him to pick this one couple that he plays with , i have heard a lot about them . meeting them and being confy with them as friends before i "jump" right into anything for the whole confy level
do you think that is a good way to start and let him know i am ready ????
i know i am asking you too much here...but i feel after reading your advice that my thoughts on all this are pretty much what i feel i can expect ...as long as my man has the time to teach...if not that he really isnt in love with me enough to teach me his "whole" way of life right??? Just looking for another play mate???
i feel i am ready and actually always have been since he told me this....just wanting to understand the whole releam and confy level
look forward to any response you may have intuition