[vickster]

wow thank you all ...but Intuition897 you sure hit a lot of things that goes through my head.thanks for laying it out as well as you did..thats what i need .. just to set the record stright , we are not married , we are in a serious relationship at this point, but as you have mentioned ths jealousy part on both sides is my biggest issue, I know that if i decide to go head with this and become cmpletely a part of his life.. i need the time and the understanding from him to allow me to experence this all on my own time frame and with his understanding and his guidance . I honestly think he can, but i also need to make sure that it is right. He has never said this is a must..just that since we fell in love ..he said this is what i do.... that part got me... how to handle it all...the sexual part of it all i think it could be incredable to say the least ...thats why i am in the position i am in ... i think it would be something i would enjoy... but i feel there needs to be some type of limits.. and i need to be accepting of what may happen to me..to him and what i see happen to him ..so on everything you have so far told me ..that gives me a whole bigger understanding.... i looked to him for this but to him i think is just so normal and a part of life for so long he can not explain it ya know...in his marriage she cheated on him...I asked how can that be cheating and he said because they were not together...that swinging must stay as a couple that is about the only real info he gave me... so once again i thank you for the info and i have begun to check other threads to become more informed of this whole new world that my man awants to take me to...