[Alura]

Unfortunately, Vickster, when one throws down an ultimatum, it often comes back to slap you in the face. Hard.

In our experience, people in the swinging lifestyle are more often exceptional people than not. It takes a special couple who have dynamic communication with each other and others to succeed here. Although there are exceptions, those who make the cut generally have a wonderful marriage.

We feel the one thing you need most is knowledge and you've certainly come to the right place for that. The folks who post on this board are caring and patient. They'll help you in any way they can.

Look through the threads. There are bound to be several that will pique your interest. You'll probably find yourself exclaiming, "That's what I wanted to ask!" Share what you learn with your soulmate, and if you have any questions you don't readily find an answer to, come back and ask.

Welcome from Oklahoma! We hope you learn a lot here. We're glad to have you with us and look forward to learning more about both of you.

Cheers and smiles,
Alura