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Originally Posted by Morose To try and answer your question (which seems like it is actually two), I read a few of your other post. In this post you appear to want your SO to let you be with other men with large penises. It also appears that you would like to have a MFM experience. The larger penis issue is not all that uncommon. If he is not comfortable with his body, that will show thru in his actions. As far as you wanting a MFM, have you looked at the pattern you have maintained? You introduced him to swinging by bringing a female into your sex life. You stated you really wanted to swing with couples, but thought that he would accept a single female better. Isn't that a little deceptive on your part? Then after you brought him into the "lifestyle" you give him an ultimatum to accept couples or nothing at all. Again, manipulation at it's best. It seems many people here made suggestions on how to trick your mate into the lifestyle. That I don't understand. My SO and I never manipulated each other. We knew what we wanted. If one of us decided to suggest something different, we would talk about it. If one of us was uncomfortable with the idea, we would not pursue it or try to trick the other into it... JMHO. Good luck with your situation. |
Morose-
Sorry that you have misunderstood what I was trying to say... It is NOT that I'm looking to be with men with larger penises than my husband, but I feel that it is not a reason to reject another person as a playmate if everything else clicks. That is where we are at.
As for deception in bringing him into the lifestlye, there was NO deception. We agreed that since we could both enjoy being with a single female, and that is where he was most comfortable, why not start there... I didn't anticipate that he might not want to go further outside his comfort zone, and I wasn't ready to give up on the couple idea. We actually started out meeting couples with Bi-Females, but in our first experience, the M half was so pushy and arrogant, it left a bitter taste. Hence the FFM play...
Did I EVER say that I was looking for a MFM relationship? I wouldn't turn it down if he offered, but he won't and I accept that.
I think that your term "manipulation" is really honesty on my part. I was honest to tell him that I wasn't satisfied just playing with other females... Just like you'd have to honest enough to tell your SO if you were not satisfied in a situation. Would you expect him to let it continue if you said it wasn't what you wanted??
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