[todafun]

Speaking from personal experience, you two need to discuss swinging in a lot more detail. Be totally honest, even if it might be hurtful to your spouse. If you hide your true feelings, it will fester inside of you & cause great problems for your relationship! It is hard to be completely honest at first, at least it was for me. I told my husband that I wanted to be with another man, and that I had been thinking about him for a week. I also told my husband that the "other man" made me feel something that my husband did not. That was hard to tell my hubby, but now we can be totally honest, and I feel so much better! If you don't want her to be alone with the other man, have you ever thought of watching them? It is a big turn on for some. Be honest and chat with her. Setting limits and talking about "what if" situations is always a good bet in my opinion.