I have read all the post and there is a sticking point, which happen more times than I care to remember. Swinger's wanting other swingers to view the lifestyle as they do. The reasons I have seen are lack of trust and too much jealousy.
Trusting one's partner is paramount! Now I know people will say they trust their partner but when you examine their reason(s) for having a closed relationships, is the lack of trust. Not wanting their partner to give/get better/more sexual pleasure from another; afaird that their parnter will leave them.
The latter is a important concern but it should have been taken care of before any couple get into swinging. So communicating your true feelings and reason(s) for swinging before and after each time is very important.
As far as jealousy is concern, too much will destory any realtionship and more so in swinging. But as a paradox, I have grown to believe that some jealousy can assist in keping swinging in it's proper perspective.
We have have been in the lifestyle for more than ten years, though, we have not swung all ten years. We have grown from closed swinging to open swinging separately with a partner from a couple we know. We have done the house party scene. We have gone to both off-premise and on-permise clubs. All has been done with the understanding that we will respect and trust each other and come back together as one after we are finish swinging.
I will end this but will finish with how we webt from close to open swinging. |