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Originally posted by Amy:
I suppose it depends upon your motivation for sharing sex with another couple. My husband and I had discussed it at length before we did it. We found it highly erotic just to think about swapping while we watched each other. Our desire was not to develop sexual relationships on the side but to add a new thrill to the relationship (with each other) that we already have. |
Closed room swinging really doesn't neccesarily have anything to do with developing relationships on the side. There are a lot of reasons that people develop their preference for the type of swinging they choose. We do it all, open and closed, however usually when it comes to other couples we have found that FOR US, even tho we would prefer to be able to watch each other, that it often works better to do closed swinging. Simply because when we are in the same room, he can tend to get too into watching me and the other female may end up feeling ignored while that is going on.
I think that when it comes down to it every couple has a different set up when it comes to swinging and how they choose to do it and what rules they choose to apply. It's all about finding what works for you and what makes your sex life better. Some couples have totally open relationships where they can have sex with anyone at any time without any prior knowledge from their spouse, others only have sex with couples in the same room. Others never do complete swap. The point is to sit down and talk with your partner about what will and won't work for the two of you and draw your lines at a place that you both agree on.
Julie
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