[DBL D]

I wanted to tell you that Fem D and I have discussed how my post made her feel. I should start by saying that this threads title applies to me as well. I don't want to have you understand that I think Fem D has to "get to where I am" in order for us to be successful swingers. My post made her feel like she will always be the bad guy and that I always am setting her up so I can blame her when we don't meet a couple, etc. I feel she's right-I Am Wrong!. I have to realize that my thoughts on where we'd like to be and what kind of a couple I want us to be viewed as are simply my fantasy and not reality based. Then I tend to promote my feelings in such a way as to make progress virtually impossible and then blame her.

I am ashamed that I have let her feel this way for so long. She is a wonderful and sensitive and smart lady who has a very difficult student in her class-ME! And I thought I was gonna be the teacher. Hah! Laughs on me.

Try to remember: This should be fun; not a pressure packed job.

Male D