Yea, been there since the end of last October. At first it was amnisia, then she acted like she'd do it to please me. I asked her not to do that. If she would just say "NO" then I would put it to rest. She's treated me like a yoyo every time I try to discuss it....I wanted to discuss it because she NEVER said the magic word..."NO". In the past two weeks we've had a couple of serious discussions (while fairly sober) and I explained to her she need not appease me. If she would just say "yes" or "no" I would be satisfied either way. Well, she shocked me and said "YES".
I discussed it further with her and she said it was okay with her. We discussed the disease and freaks and loosing or breaking comdoms issues for awhile and she appeared more relaxed about the swinging idea. Quite frankly, she's been quite randy about the idea ever since, so I believe I got an honest answer. Either way though, you can only go as fast as the slowest person. Don't push too hard with her. Just let her absorb it for awhile cause you never know if she'll change her mind or not. Be willing to accept the love you two have between you as a couple.
