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Old 08-14-2005, 08:43 AM   #8 (permalink)
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Default Re: Are we too picky?

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Originally Posted by Dynamar
I'll presume here that you are referring to a couple-to-couple situation. Because, in general, my tack as a single is very different.

Never wanting to appear to be "the pushy single"... I will not initiate a telephone call. If a couple shares their phone number with me, and I feel comfortable enough to give them mine as well... I will wait for their call.

Still... the outcome in many of my situations too, is that they don't call. Or if they do, then that's all they want to do... talk back and forth ad infinitum. If a couple wants to meet me, they make the first move and ask me for a meet. I never will.
Hmmm. You're right, of course. The tactic used by a single person might have to be different. In our society the forward female especially is percieved as "too easy". As for the "no call" situation, I think you'll agree that it indicates a lack of real interest and avoids the alternative situation of endless e-mail exchange. JoAnn and I too have experienced the person who wants to call only when he feels lonely. That situation we have yet to overcome. None of these lonely souls has yet turned into a real pest. They tend to fade from view after a while.
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