[DBL D]

Well, it didn't come up in our situation like that, I can tell you. But since we have been with a few couples, I thought there would be more talk about them during our time together with each other. Fem D has been really open with herself about what she wants, but not neccesarily with me. Since I'm such a go-getter it seems to hurt our chances of really getting into the lifestyle. At the same time I have to realize that the things that have happened to Fem D to get her to where she is today are monumental in her mind. The key has to be to take the lifestyle as slowly as she wants to take it, if at all. This is just something to be aware of.

I have always been a swinger at heart since I was a kid, and knew that I would be placing those feelings in a dark place for a long time, possibly forever, when I decided to marry her. Through some stroke of courage or fear or selfishness the subject has been broached and now if I have any hope of realizing my fantasies it has to be on her terms. Take what you are allowed to take and be happy. Hopefully your experience will grow to the point where it becomes easy to have it as a part of your lives.

Male D