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Originally Posted by iowancouple96

We're supposed to meet up with a guy this weekend for our first MMF. I'm EXTREMELY nervous. Honestly I'm not quite sure if this is the guy or not. What are you guys thoughts on this? Do you think we should go along with it? Or come up with an excuse to cancel?

What's your hurry? Whatever happened to the notion of meeting for a "no-pressure, no-committment drink" FIRST? I would think that given how big a step this is for you, you'd want to meet at least few different guys first, then decide if any of them were "right" for you both. As was pointed out recently in another thread, in "real-life," people often differ significantly from their online persona. In setting up a sex-date with somebody you've never even met, you're leaving yourself vulnerable to being pressured into something you may not be entirely comfortable with, at least with this person. Leave yourself an out.

It's like my friend, a negotiator for his union, says..."Even when you know you're going to buy a car, you NEVER get off the bus right in front of the dealers lot"

Have you considered telling this guy that you've discussed the matter with your husband, and that you've both decided that first meetings with everybody, especially single males, are not going to include play? If he's been around the lifestyle for a while, he'll totally understand. If he insists on playing on the first date, he's unlikely to be considerate of your feelings anyway.

he's supposedly "in a relationship" but he isn't bringing her. Nor have I received any proof that there is a female in the relationship.

If he has one but doesn't plan to include her (and it's not a requirement of yours that he do so), it shoudn't matter whether he has one or not. But remember, you're only hearing his version of how things are at his house. It's possible "she" isn't coming because "she's" staying home with their kids, or the hogs, or whatever. "She" may expect him to come home with a cooler full of fish or a bowling trophy. And lastly, "she" may have seen your profile, and said "You want me to do what? With her husband? NO way!"