Jean,
I just want to add to what good suggestions were already said here....While doing your search & RE-searching on the lifestyle, BOTH of you should be doing this together. And discuss EVERYthing & ANYthing that cums to mind! Communicate with truth & honesty, with a bit of imagination along the way
, and move at your own pace, and you'll both find who you're looking for.
When chatting with potential partners, you want to ask them ANYthing & EVERYthing that cums to mind! If they are who they say they are, then answering all your questions truthfully wouldn't be a problem. BUT, if they give you grief and they feel "threatened" by all your questions, either they are not ready to enter into the lifestyle truthfully, or they are imposters, and you don't want nothing to do with them! A simple "Thanks, but no thanks" should be sufficient enough.
Do realize though, that others will be asking you personal questions as well, just be prepared to answer them with truth & honesty as well.
I think the main problem we've experienced so far (which was very few), is during the "getting to know each other" stages via emailing, ICQ, IM, etc....There are a few of those who find this "stage" a bit uncomfortable for them, taking "questions" VERY personal, and it IS, but do realize the "why" behind them too. *lol*
Just have fun with it! For us, we searched for FRINDSHIP 1ST! And whatever happens from there, well....
ANYway....*lol* This is what worked for US, and it's been over a year since we've started our "research" in the lifestyle, and we've enjoyed the FUN & FRIENDSHIPS that we've gained so far! And let's not forget the EROTIC adventures too, which is an added "spice" to our UNique friendships....
Good luck with your search! And do keep us posted with your progress as well!
Cyber
Wife