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Old 08-07-2005, 03:04 PM   #51 (permalink)
intuition897
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Default Re: Wife Wants To Roll Solo...Now What....

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Originally Posted by twoloves
I'm not handling it as well as I thought I would. Wife: suck it up, I like the guy and want to do it again. BTW, readers, fellow sends chatty emails every week. This bugs me.

What do I do? I am uncomfortable now with solo play. I don't deal with it as well as I thought I could. Am I being selfish? She isn't going to run off with other fellow, it's just that I don't want to share unless we're playing as a couple. I changed my mind. I don't want some other fellow sending emails and trying to be my wife's "buddy".
She say's I'm controlling. Resents that. Say's I had my fun and now it's her turn, sorry how you feel. I ask when will it end, when you have 3 more times alone? She say's not sure, maybe more...AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH...

Am I screwed up? I want to be fair but....?

2luvs
Bear in mind here that I haven't read any of the numerous posts on this. I'm just responding to 2luvs' original post.

It sounds to me like your wife is the one being a little selfish here. This is impacting you negatively and from your post it appears this doesn't affect her much. I think this has become a problem because you're both focusing on "levelling the table". You're both keeping score (he gets solo play two times, I get solo play at least two times...). Scorekeeping can only get nasty. Maybe she should "suck it up" and get over the fact that you can't always get what you want. If she was a guy, she'd have been accused of letting the little head do the thinking for the big head. No questions asked.
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