[angeel]

Hi, congratulations on your 20th anniversary. We are new to swinging as well. Our first swing was on our 8th anniversary. Made for wonderful memories thats for sure. We had rules too. Our rules was: to never leave the room. Never engage in any form of sex with out the other present. Those were our only rules. We did discuss anal sex and I we decided that it was up to him and the other person. For me, no, I won't do it. I won't feel comfortable with some else going there. As we have gone on further. Those rules have changed. We met a lady who joined us and our single friend. We got a long all night and for the first 30 min back at the apt. She just was not comfortable. So I told my husband to go to another room. For some reason, when they left, I was no longer interested. Less then 5 min later. My husband walks back in. He was not interested with out me. We ended up with each other and put the 2 singles together. We just can't lose sight of each other. That is part of our enjoyment. So the rule is back in Place! It will work out for you as long as you keep talking about it. When she or even you bring up a rule that you feel is important, accept it. Also discuss why it is important. This is your first time. You know you will be with some one other the S/O. You know there will be possible sex. But you do not know any details such as comfort level. When you meet for the first time and the chemistry heats up and the sexual attraction kicks in, you may find a more relaxing rule coming. You may also end up making a rule for use in certain cpl situations or even places or depending on how many cpls or ppl are involved. Make your rules, relax, let the activity itself soothe you both. After the first swing, re-valuate those rules. Did they work for you? Did they help you to be comfortable? Do you think you can enjoy your self better if you did not have a certain rule? Was a rule needed that was not in place. Ask why or why not a rule worked for you. Happy swinging to you both.