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Originally Posted by spankem69 Just a question for anyone who may have been where I am. My wife and I have discussed swinging off and on for about a year. I'm the one who brought it up and 9 x out of 10, I initiate the discussion. It has gone from " No way in hell, I won't even discuss it" (the wife) to very interesting talks. We've at least established that, on a fantasy level, we would want to watch the other get it on. She feels, however, that talking and doing are two totally different things. I agree. But to me, it stands to reason that if you're willing to talk about it to that point, there must be some level of intrest in maybe doing some day. Has anyone else started this way? Anyones input would be greatly appreciated. |
I've discussed several things very seriously with ABSOLUTELY NO intention of doing them. Being interested in something on an intellectual or emotional level does not mean you are willing to participate in it. I've had some long talks about homosexuality with some gay friends of mine. That doesn't mean I'm interested in trying it, only that I'm interested in their thoughts about why they do it and what it does for them. Your wife may talk to you about swinging, but only so she can understand your position. Even if she says "I would only do that if this, that, and the other thing", she is probably just stating her ideas on the subject, not that she is interested in following through some day. Until she says "hey, lets try that", talk is usually just talk.