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Originally Posted by spankem69 She feels, however, that talking and doing are two totally different things. I agree. But to me, it stands to reason that if you're willing to talk about it to that point, there must be some level of intrest in maybe doing some day. Has anyone else started this way? Anyones input would be greatly appreciated. |
We started in much the same way. For us, it was the fact that it
was so accessible and easily realizable that made it such a huge turn-on. The idea that this could really, really happen! I recall a weekend we spent with the kids away some years ago. Although we never followed through with it (for various reasons), we stumbled upon the idea of including a female friend of mine in our bedroom play. She and her son stayed overnight (sleepover party for the kids) and we had a little too much wine and the topic came up. Now of course nothing happened 1) with kids in the house, and 2) because Mr. intuition wasn't home, but the thought was there! This raised some issues when I discussed it with him the next day, a lot of fears and insecurities, a lot of questions, but he was off for the weekend and the kids were away... Nothing else came from our lips for two days except talk of swinging. And we screwed like rabbits on speed. OMG, I was a tad raw after our humpathon.
Enough of my reverie, and on to your question. She's right: talk and action are two completely different things. Sometimes one is a precursor to the other,
but often it is not! The cool thing about fantasy is that it is a safe way to indulge in things that, in the real world, are far less controllable than we are comfortable with. In fantasy, your partners are perfect. They only react the way you want them to, they only feel the way you want them to, and you never need to worry about disease, pregnancy, physical safety, etc. The real thing is messy and imperfect. Unless you're absolutely prepared for that, you're probably going to be disappointed.