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Originally Posted by all4him Intuition: Thank you, thank you, thank you.  |
Hey NP, all4him. I'm just happy if I'm of some help to others.
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Originally Posted by all4him I have learned one thing in a recent argument though. Don't threaten him with screwing someone else. He made me very angry the other night and kept bringing up my ex. I told him if he brought him up or accused me one more time that I would just go f**k my ex. He told me go ahead. I said why? you wanna watch? should i make sure we do it on the balcony? Of course I only said it to make him as angry as I was, but later after we both calmed down he told me that me talking about that and "offering" to let him watch just turned him on. Note to self: don't attempt to make him angry by suggesting sex with someone else and allowing him to watch. |
This part of your post just made me smile. That was maybe the most startling thing I'd learned on our journey: you can't use sex as a weapon anymore. It's amazing. We're all so used to threatening each other with sex with others - and we do it SOOO subtly - that we don't even realize we're doing it. Ever had a fight, wake up the next morning still mad and then dress to kill as you head off to work? You know, the whole nine yards, matching black lace bra and thong, or maybe stockings and garter belt under a sexy skirt? Perfume, hair, makeup, paint the toenails... You don't even realize you're doing it, but somewhere underneath it all, you're still mad and you're getting even by getting sexual attention from other men...or women. You can see the question in his eyes as you leave for work, and you think, "Good! Let him sit and wonder." But after you've openend Pandora's Box, you can't do that anymore. He just shouts as you leave the door, "I want all the juicy details when you get hoooome!"
