[DBL D]

Congrats newbies! We're heading towards our 26th mid Aug. !!!

Contrary to what some may think, rules were not made to be broken. They are there to help everyone out and to keep us out of trouble. I know what you're saying about the rule thing with other couples though. When you are new, that is what you do. When you get to be around those who've been in the lifestyle a long time there really aren't many. It does have to do with comfort.

Aside from rules though, we've found that there are different levels of comfort within the rules. What is too intimate for instance? It gets crazy. We look for those who hopefully have few rules. It frees things up for everyone to make up their minds as they go along. Something that may not feel right on one occaision might feel better during the next.

Try to be patient and hopefully you have an SO who wants to talk about everything in the lifestyle and meets it with enthusiasm.

Male D