[xxoticangel]

We second (or third or fourth) what the others said. If there a rule that either one of you wants in effect make it a rule. Do not try to negotiate the rules that you have agreed to and DO NOT ever under any circumstances break a rule that has been made regardless of how drunk or horny you may be at the time. Even if your partner breaks his/her own rule you should still not break the rule before discussing it.

In the begining we had so many rules that we actually wrote them down and discussed them. Over the years the rules have diminished to very few and are treated as guidelines more than rules. No cross gender kissing was a big rule until about a year ago. Angel felt that a deep passionate kiss was too intimate and was uncomfortable with it. I on the other hand didn't care but followed it anyway. Last year we were with a new couple and at one point I was on the floor with the wife while Angel was on the couch with the boyfriend sitting on his lap and kissing while she slowly rocked back and forth. Since I love watching her kiss I was not upset but I didn't break the rule. We discussed it on the ride home and she admitted that it just seemed the thing to do right then and since she knew I would not be upset she went with the feeling. She also thanked me for keeping the rules in place even when she didn't. The no kissing rule is now history. No anal was also a rule that is not defunct.

If you stay within your set boundries in the begining you will develop a sense of trust and probably find that as you go along some of the more "extreme" rules will slowly go away.