Phobia! Yep... That's me.. I have been called a homophobe a few times (ususally by Bi Women and their hubbies I have turned down..
the ones who think ALL women are Bi and don't understand the meaning of NO) It don't bother me a bit to be called that. It actually reinforces how I feel and also lets me know that I have gotten my point across and the subject is dropped and I won't be bothered by that particular person and her spouse anymore.
Ron and I have recently got involved in an off premise club. There are a few str8 couples there so we decided to give it a try. The str8 couples that are members have had their share of the Bi women trying to convert them in the beginning and have passed that point and have firmly established their straightism..(Is that word?) LOL Since we went to a party recently and have talked with the old established str8's from the club, we have seen yet another thing in this bi vs. str8 issue...bi-friendly??? Ok Some of the women there say "Oh I'm just Bi-friendly not bi.. because they dance with other women...kiss other women..and grope other women at the party...they think they are str8 because they don't have actual sex with another woman!??" Sorry that don't wash with me...Dancing, kissing and groping someone of the same sex is Bi..period.
The established older str8 members have told us that we have to set our boundaries up front and then the bi women will respect those boundaries and everything will be cool...unlike some clubs where they get pushy.
That is a good thing with this club so I think Ron and I will do fine there. We experienced that a little at the first party..I had a woman ask me to dance..haha.. I told her no I was str8 and only danced with men.. (I was nice about too..haha) she said cool. and went on to dance with a bi lady..fine whatever floated her boat.. later that night she sat down at our table and we all had just a nice friendly talk about kids, hubbies, and general BS. So our boundaries are set..she and I will be friends and get along fine. A new friend made and we respect each others beliefs. very cool.. I like that.
Connie aka..standin...aka homophobe..aka..ME..
[This message has been edited by Stratecpl (edited 06-30-2001).]