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Sunswept · 07-30-2005, 05:54 PM

I didn't loose my virginity till I got to college, my first was a very advanced girl, very unconventional, and in my our first night she took a very naive me into every imaginable realm, she squirted, was into anal, knew prostate massage, how to control a guys orgasm.. she was wild. I had heard the other guys talk about her and she scared a lot of them. But since I knew nothing about sex, what happened became my idea of a "norm". We became an item, she was bi, and there was a group of other students that were comfortable with more unlimited forms of sexual expression we played with, so my college years were very sexually free, and having multiple partners was no big deal, here I learned the joy of seeing my partner blossom, and her pleasure at seeing me blossom.

Then after school I dated, but noticed the real world was far different from what I had gotten use to in school. I got a career, settled down. Fell in love, got married. It was a monoganomous relationship, sexually a different life for me. The marrage was very troubled, she was bi-polar..she used cheating as an anti-depressant.. I had to walk a straight line and be there to clean up the messes.. until I burned out... we both decided to end it after 15 yrs.

Had a few "transitional" relationships after that, then met a remarkable woman. Something about us just "clicked", we became an item. Turned out she was bi, and her college life had been so similar to mine but she kept exploring, where I had become serious and conventional. It was like being reborn, I had closed down, she opened me. We never married, but we were in total love with each other and were together for more than a decade till she passed. From beginning to end, it was intensely loving, intensely sexual, intensely honest. She introduced me to "swinging" per se... had never thought what I had done in college as swinging. What I had experienced back in my college days definately helped me ease into swinging, as did the total honesty,love and commitment we had with each other. But I think that even had I been clueless about sex with others, with her it would have still been an easy initiation. As everyone knows, your partner makes all the difference.

07-30-2005, 05:54 PM	#34 (permalink)
Sunswept Here to Stay Join Date: Jul 2005 Posts: 45 Location: Washington Status: Single Male	Re: Promiscuity and Swinging I didn't loose my virginity till I got to college, my first was a very advanced girl, very unconventional, and in my our first night she took a very naive me into every imaginable realm, she squirted, was into anal, knew prostate massage, how to control a guys orgasm.. she was wild. I had heard the other guys talk about her and she scared a lot of them. But since I knew nothing about sex, what happened became my idea of a "norm". We became an item, she was bi, and there was a group of other students that were comfortable with more unlimited forms of sexual expression we played with, so my college years were very sexually free, and having multiple partners was no big deal, here I learned the joy of seeing my partner blossom, and her pleasure at seeing me blossom. Then after school I dated, but noticed the real world was far different from what I had gotten use to in school. I got a career, settled down. Fell in love, got married. It was a monoganomous relationship, sexually a different life for me. The marrage was very troubled, she was bi-polar..she used cheating as an anti-depressant.. I had to walk a straight line and be there to clean up the messes.. until I burned out... we both decided to end it after 15 yrs. Had a few "transitional" relationships after that, then met a remarkable woman. Something about us just "clicked", we became an item. Turned out she was bi, and her college life had been so similar to mine but she kept exploring, where I had become serious and conventional. It was like being reborn, I had closed down, she opened me. We never married, but we were in total love with each other and were together for more than a decade till she passed. From beginning to end, it was intensely loving, intensely sexual, intensely honest. She introduced me to "swinging" per se... had never thought what I had done in college as swinging. What I had experienced back in my college days definately helped me ease into swinging, as did the total honesty,love and commitment we had with each other. But I think that even had I been clueless about sex with others, with her it would have still been an easy initiation. As everyone knows, your partner makes all the difference.