[EternallySingle]

Your wife may think this woman is hot and she might LIKE to include her in a 3some, but that doesn't mean she WANTS to include her in a 3some now or in the future. Unless your wife acutally says she wants to try and hook up with this woman, it isn't going to happen, no matter how hard you try to make it happen.

Back off, ask about her every once in a while, but otherwise leave it alone. I had to do something similar with a friend thats going through a rough time trying to balance swinging, her life as a single mom, and keeping the people from church from finding out. I tried to tell her, without using the S word, that I knew what she was going through and was available if she wanted to talk, but while she says her door is always open, she shuts me out if I talk about anything other than computers or accounting. You have to let her come out and say whats what. If you don't press the matter, she may start the ball moving. If you do, she'll resist, even if she really wants to do what you are suggesting. Women are weird that way, and they won't change. You just have to accept it and love them anyway.