[EternallySingle]

Be careful. It might just be that this girl is starting to admit her feelings for other women, or she may think SHE is going to ease you and your wife into a swinging encounter. You have to somehow approach her as if both those statements were true. Meaning find a way to bring up fantasies about threesomes, watching, being watched, whatever, and let her make the next move. Usually when people initially meet in person and not through a personal ad, somehow you tell each other your rules and the first swing encounters just seems to happen. Its only at clubs and through online sites that you go through the "OK, this is what you can and can't do, this is what we will and will not do" routine.

Don't think of your relationship with this girl as you and your wife reeling her in, but as you and your wife learning what she has to offer you and you have to offer her. By the time it is time for the three of you to get together, you won't worry about how to get her but how long it will be until you get together again.

BTW, when I say relationship, I'm talking about how you the three of you get along together and nothing more. Everyone has a relationship with everyone else. Its just a matter of how intimate and exclusive our relationships are with various people we know.