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lovedoctor · 07-28-2005, 10:20 PM

Hi Jennifer-

I'm almost exactly the same size as you with the exception of being a C cup and I am 5' 8" tall. Sounds like we have the same tummy trouble too. As a "person of size" I sure hate being asked the weight question too, but I guess it is inevitable. I too am pretty happy with myself, but my hubby and I have decided not to actively go out seeking swinging couples yet. I would like to lose about another 40 lbs before we make the plunge. It's not that I am uncomfortable with "me" or that I care so much with what others think, but I also think the weight may be a bit of a barrier - just enough that I might not feel all that comfortable with being in a club, at this point. In your case, this young man has already seen pics of you, and gotten to know you. So I would just try to relax as much as you can and see what happens when you meet. I would tell him that you don't want to discuss the weight question anymore until you know each other better. Two and a half hours is not a long drive to see if this guy does "it" for you. Nothing ventured, nothing gained.

Please keep us posted with how it goes, and good luck!!

07-28-2005, 10:20 PM	#5 (permalink)
lovedoctor Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Jul 2005 Posts: 510 Location: Florida - but right now, I'm on tour! Status: M Female Swing Lifestyle Name:Fllovedoctor	Re: A question for the bigger girls Hi Jennifer- I'm almost exactly the same size as you with the exception of being a C cup and I am 5' 8" tall. Sounds like we have the same tummy trouble too. As a "person of size" I sure hate being asked the weight question too, but I guess it is inevitable. I too am pretty happy with myself, but my hubby and I have decided not to actively go out seeking swinging couples yet. I would like to lose about another 40 lbs before we make the plunge. It's not that I am uncomfortable with "me" or that I care so much with what others think, but I also think the weight may be a bit of a barrier - just enough that I might not feel all that comfortable with being in a club, at this point. In your case, this young man has already seen pics of you, and gotten to know you. So I would just try to relax as much as you can and see what happens when you meet. I would tell him that you don't want to discuss the weight question anymore until you know each other better. Two and a half hours is not a long drive to see if this guy does "it" for you. Nothing ventured, nothing gained. Please keep us posted with how it goes, and good luck!!