I don’t mean this in a bad way, but my presumption is that you are both very young. I only say that because when I was much younger, certain sexual things were downright GROSS to me … things that I now participate in with a flourish!
That said, sometimes it helps to come to a board like this, talk to others as you are attempting to do and get their feedback. Also, you and your boyfriend might do some internet surfing on anal sex and anal play and how to do it without much risk at all. It’s a matter of hygiene, really. If he is interested in playing with you anally, and if you two approach this new realm of sexual satisfaction in an enlightened manner, then it can be very satisfying to you both.
There are many men who enjoyed having anal play performed on them, whether it is simply tonguing, or fingers inserted, or even with sex toys. To some men, they might secretly like it, but be afraid to let anyone know due to the taboo … and fear that they might be mistaken for homosexual. Not the case at all. No more so than a woman having oral sex performed on her means that she is homosexual. It’s a matter of what is arousing and feels good sexually. Just because a man likes to have his anal region played with, doesn’t mean he is harboring secret thoughts of another man screwing him in the ass.
And even if he is harboring secret, bi-sexual thoughts … really, what’s the big deal? Would you love him less if he were bi-sexual? Would he love you less if you were bi-sexual? I really don’t like the stigma placed by society onto society that females being bi-sexual is stimulating and sexy, but if men are bi-sexual it’s just “not right”.
