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Originally posted by LIZA:
Well from my (female) perspective, I think for MOST women 1 month is a little early. |
Isn't it wonderful
I can agree with that statement, and disagree. Liza it sounds like you would have been one of the ones who ran from me
That's okay too
It is early, but it also saves time and potential heartache. Which it appears he has already done by bringing the subject up earlier in their relationship.
Clarifying myself here now: I wasn't saying he should "hound" her about it. Just inform her of it, which he has done. He hasn't scared her off by telling her of these things. So there is a potential future there IMHO.
It was 8 months before "swinging" was brought up again in our relationship. But, I was willing to give it that time. When it was brought up again, it was by Maggie, not by me.
I feel that by allowing her to know what I was about in the very beginning of our relationship. I allowed her to make a more thoughtful decision about having any kind of relationship with me at all.
And NO, I did not attend ANY socials while we were dating before she asked to go to one. I had/still have a lot of respect for her. Simply because she did not RUN as fast as she could after finding out about my lifestyle choices.
If she asked for us to quit going to socials today, I would. I would also miss it, but that's where our relationship is now. And, I believe it's there because I was 100% honest, at the very beginning.