[sportync]

In nearly every relationship I've witnessed during my life, one partner has controlled the bedroom activities...and it was almost always the one with the least desire for sexual activity. Almost, but definately not always, it was the woman...after all, it was her body which was going to be penetrated, so it was usually up to her how, when, how often and by whom this would happen. Only in couples who have embraced the lifestyle have I seen the liberty where each partner was free to express their own sexual fantasies and desires with the one they love, and still remain in love and on each other's side, as a couple should be. This takes a tremendous amount of trust, respect, self respect, communication and devotion to the idea that you truely want your mate to enjoy themselves to the fullest extent possible, and you also have a burning desire to share this experience with them... to be part of it, then to re-affirm your love afterwards. This, to me, is the essence of "Swinging". If it doesn't include your mate, then why do you have one? Sportync