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Originally Posted by Vantabulous Rough play would absolutely be out of the question. God and Satan will partner-up in a golf Scramble before I could ever bring myself to lay a hand to my wife or, any other woman for that matter. Just not possible.
"Name-calling"? See above.
D/s doesn't hold much interest for either of us, so I don't know if it counts here. Probably not much more for us than fantasy material...and meager, at best. |
I sure didn't want my post to come off sounding like I was abused in some way. One thing Mr. would NEVER do is call me names. He has immense respect for women, and takes no pleasure in degrading them. Besides, he knows he'd be risking some tender body parts if he did!
As far as the face-slapping incident goes, it was a matter of misunderstanding. A simple and - really - harmless mistake. For him, activity like this is not negative or hurtful if it is done with mutual enthusiasm and between two loving, trusting partners. But it's much the same as how some people prefer golf to football; what one person considers a healthy level of physical contact may not be shared by the other. Although I tried to embrace this concept, it is just one area that I cannot tread. Perhaps someday in the future, but I just don't feel ready to take on that kind of thing at this point in my life. When he realized with sudden clarity that I don't share the same outlook on physical expression,
he was devastated that he had 'hurt me'. The pain was purely in my own mind; it wasn't the actual act that hurt me, just the idea of it. I tried to explain to him that it was simply a misunderstanding, no harm done. I knew why he did it, but regardless, I couldn't stop my knee-jerk reaction. (Stupid girls...they cry all the time
:rollseyes ) He can be unbelievably hard on himself sometimes. I just wish I was better at controlling myself. When I feel emotional stress - good or bad - I cry. Some people get mad/confrontational, others laugh nervously, others start to talk incessantly...I cry. Lucky me. Makes me feel like an idiot is what it does.
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Originally Posted by Vantabulous I can only imagine...and it hurts me to even think about it. Don't lose that guy...
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Not if I have anything to do with it. One of the agreements that we have is that we are each here by choice. I will not bind him to me in any way, but I've told him so many times that the only way he's going to get rid of me is if he tells me that he doesn't want to be with me anymore. And even that won't be made easy for him. I've never met anyone like him, and I just don't have the words to describe how deeply in love with him I am.