Let me share an experience that we had.
There was a couple that we were swinging with and he and my wife just seemed to be having more intimate of a relationship than I cared for. He would hug her for longer than I liked and kisses and feels and all those little things that we do for the ones we love.
It was really beginning to get to me at one point and so I told my wife about it. We discussed it in detail. We picked it apart in everyway we could. I felt better about it, but inside, I still was upset about it. So, again I had a discussion with my wife about it. At that point, I decided to discuss it with the other couple. I chose to discuss it with BOTH of them so that it would be out in the open for ALL of us and no one person could avoid it. After some discussion, he said to me that he was sorry about it. His wife also said that she was sure it was nothing.
Well, it turns out that he's just one of those extra 'affectionate' people. I've learned that he never meant our marriage any harm and that I was overreacting a bit. I must say, for a very jealous man, I did quite well. *Smiles*
So.. My advice to you is do the same thing I did. Sit down and thrash it out on the table with all of you there.
Husband of CyberMWCouple
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