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Jealousy is what led us to an exclusive relationship with another couple.

We had only been in the lifestyle for a few months when we met this great couple. We hit it off right from the start. They had been in the lifestyle for 4 years and were pleased that all 4 of us got along so well. We had gone to our club with them several times, we had seen them play with others and they saw us play with others. So it was a shock when the male of the couple told me that he was very jealous when he saw me with other men. He said he had never been jealous when he saw his wife with others, because he knew that she was going to come back to him, but he was not so sure that I would come back to him. At the time I was a little flattered that he wanted me all to himself. Wow, I really wish I had more experience then, because I would have known that was a big red flag. We all decided that to overcome the jealousy we would become exclusive. It lasted 6 months and ended badly. We are sort of friends now, but it was a painful experience.

But we did learn a great lesson. If and when we ever start to feel jealous of our swing partners, then that is when we would cut off all contact with them. Sometimes it makes me wonder if I have developed a cold heart, but I just can not go through that pain again.