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Originally Posted by bunnyrabbits Having been through this (my wife has had a child from a play partner) , it was difficult to accept at first. When our son arrived, I grew to love him just like my other children. This was a difficult time for us, but we got through it.
We did tell the father. He really didn't want to have anything to do with this situation. I do worry that he will come back one day and want to be a part of his life. But if that happens, I know that I will always be "daddy".  |
I think that there is nothing more admirable than loving someone else's child as your own, regardless of the circumstances of their arrival. I think it takes a big person with a big heart to open themselves like this.
I have been reading posts where people say they could not love this child and it makes me sad. It is not the child fault, they are innocent little beings who did not ask to be born and arrived because two people chose to swing. It is not all the wife's fault or responsiblity, you chose to play as a team and the decision to have and raise this child should be made as a team.
We did have this scare once and we agreed to raise the child as our own if I was indeed pregnant. Luckly I was not. I would certainly tell the father as I think he has a right to be involved in some way if they choose.
It might be hard to explain though as hubby has had a vasectomy
