Thank you everyone for your responses - This is what we were looking for, different prespectives on our situation. We have both read the responses and talked about them. It seems like once you get to a place where you are ready to jump into the pool, you look up and see that oops, the pool needs to be filtered again - in other words, just when you think is all huncky dory, something else comes up that needs to be addressed. I think what helped us also was each of us writing "our side" so to speak, when we read what the other wrote, we were like "oh thats what you meant" or "I didn't mean what I said in that way." It wasnt meant to be he said she said, but we had come to a crossroads in our talking and needed fresh prespectives - which we got from ya'll. Thank you.
Having said that - we've decided to continue on our course of looking for couples. Be more spontaneous too - having to methodically plan everything takes the fun out of it. We go to an off-premises club here, and have been to a couple socials also, and have talked to plenty of couples. We have shelved the looking for singles - I think Mr. Alura put it best when he said
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Well, we think y'all would do well to find a couple and take turns for the MFM and FMF. (Just think of the combinations! )
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I think that this way I can safely explore my sexuality, whether it be bi, situtationally bi or just straight as an arrow lol. And both can have a HECK of a good time at that!!!
That way I can avoid EvilMJ's description - love the way you put it girl!!!
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Baby steps guys. If you are with a single woman ,you are committed and it could end badly, it's like ordering a keg without ever knowing you like beer.
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Like RNDNV said
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you will then just need to hang on for the ride boy, cause then she'll take you places you never thought you would go. BE PATIENT, with her and yourself.
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Oh yeah - and we can't wait for that to happen - and it will too, now that we are back on the same page.
We just needed to step back and re-group. WE are good at communicating - but there is always room for improvement.
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As long as neither of you "take one for the team" you guys won't have resentments build that need communication to the endth degree.
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All I can sat to that is AMEN!!! LIke playmatesinpgh said
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Just keep talking and this problem will take care of itself.
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You guys were right - it does take care of itself. And we're rarin' to go!!!
Thanks again ya'll!!!!
Jenn