The Swingers Board - View Single Post - He thinks I'm being selfish, I'm just not sure what I want.

graygo98 · 07-21-2005, 08:55 AM

No, you are not wrong. But neither is James. I am not sure that as a couple, though, you are really ready to move forward with anything right now.

Men can be pretty linear and task oriented.... at least until it comes to tasks like taking out the garbage or making the bed, I suppose. This isn't another weekend project, though, with checklists and timelines. Its about human emotions, feelings and couple dynamics. Way more complicated than building a garage, or even a space shuttle. And it doesn't matter what one or the other agreed to weeks, days or even moments ago. As you move from pure fantasy toward "this is really happening" your perspective will change. Its completely fair ball to say "Whoa.... l'm not sure I am ready for this."

Why don't you go to an off premisese club? Meet some people, dance a bit, have some fun? The dance floor can be pretty unthreatening place for you to take the first step toward finding out if you have any bi interest. But in any case, slow down and just do what you are comfortable with. That's what is important, not who said what when.

07-21-2005, 08:55 AM	#9 (permalink)
graygo98 Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Mar 2004 Posts: 395 Location: Toronto Status: Couple	Re: Am I Wrong???? No, you are not wrong. But neither is James. I am not sure that as a couple, though, you are really ready to move forward with anything right now. Men can be pretty linear and task oriented.... at least until it comes to tasks like taking out the garbage or making the bed, I suppose. This isn't another weekend project, though, with checklists and timelines. Its about human emotions, feelings and couple dynamics. Way more complicated than building a garage, or even a space shuttle. And it doesn't matter what one or the other agreed to weeks, days or even moments ago. As you move from pure fantasy toward "this is really happening" your perspective will change. Its completely fair ball to say "Whoa.... l'm not sure I am ready for this." Why don't you go to an off premisese club? Meet some people, dance a bit, have some fun? The dance floor can be pretty unthreatening place for you to take the first step toward finding out if you have any bi interest. But in any case, slow down and just do what you are comfortable with. That's what is important, not who said what when.