[jennandjamesinm]

Hey guys, I dont post very often but Jenn was wanting me to tell my side of the situation. We are happy with the speed at which we are moving in the lifestyle, we are very open and have a lot of communication about what we do. We started discussing our fantasies of having a threesome. Jenn with an additional male and me with an additional female. Jenn was all excited and we said that we would look at different ads and pick canidates for each others final approval. We have discussed this before and I thought we were both all for the idea. I took the initiative and found a few choices and with Jenn's approval sent some intrductory e mails. She was very much excited about the responses. I asked her if she had made any progress and she said that she had not even looked and did not feel that she would. This is what bothered me. I still want to find the other man for her, to fulfill her fantasy. I guess my problem was that I felt she was being selfish and uncaring about mine. We discussed the situation some more and I know she is unsure about being bi or bi curious and she know that decision is up to her completely. I feel I have not applied any pressure but feel that if I put forth the effort she should also as we had discussed before. I told her maybe it would be best if we just looked for couples first and when I said that she seemed to get angry with me for not following through with her fantasy... so we are just wanting advice on how to handle the situation. Has anyone else been through the same thing? Just write this one up in the " newbies needing advice" column.
James