Hi ya'll - I have a situation that I have and I know that if anyone you guys will be honest with me. We haven't swung yet with anyone - we just can't find a couple that we BOTH click with. But that's not the problem - we got to talking about fulfilling each of our fantasies, MFM and FMF. WE thought that we could keep looking for a couple, but look for singles to help us out with the other fantasy. James thought that we could each look for the single and the other would have final approval (i.e. I look for James' chick and he looks for my guy). James jumped on in and started to look for a male, and I was a little slow on the uptake. I was ok with that, but feel like I am really not ready for the FMF. I guess because I don't know whether to look for a bi-fem or a straight one - I don't know what I am yet LOL and feel like I need time to figure that out - maybe by possibly playing with another couple and seeing what happens. James feels like I am being selfish and that I will never want the FMF and only want my fantasy satisified. I never said that - never got a chance to say anything. Surrender I know that I will fulfill his fantasy, but just not now. Am I being selfish for wanting to continue on the course for my fantasy, but putting his on hold?
I just don't feel that I should have to pay him back for having my fantasy fulfilled. I feel like its well I'm giving you yours, so you should give me mine, and in a way I can see where that is fair, but I also feel like I am being backed into a corner. I know that the key to any situation is communication, and we are doing that....but we are at a point where we thought we'[d bring it to ya'll for your point of view. Kind of a new set of ears (eyes) to give us some more ideas on what to do. All thoughts are appreciated, ya'll know me, I'd rather have it straight. Thanks Guys!!!
Jenn