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Originally Posted by NaughtyKitten
Have you ever felt jealous of your favorite swing partner being with other people?
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I have.
It's a strange feeling when it happened because at the start of the swing relationship I
knew the guy had - and will continue to have - other play partners, yet, I think there was a part of me that had a fantasy of being his "outstanding" partner.
I can laugh at myself, because I know that twinge of old-fashioned jealousy will pop up again with other play partners. I think it comes from years of vanilla programming. I figure it may take a while to overcome my knee-jerk reaction but I'm not concerned.
One important quality I look for in a guy who I play with is that when we are together on a playdate - couple to couple on a private date - I feel he should give his full attention to his wife and me. This does not mean he shouldn't notice or comment on other attractive females, but if he starts to go hog wild over someone else, tries to establish a relationship on the spot with other women in hopes of a future play, I find that rude and I'd not play with him again.
I want to emphasize that I'm not talking about a casual "hey, hope to see you guys at club or party" and we run into them. I don't expect to be attended to then. We're all there to meet people in that case.
When we meet another couple for a personal play date, I want to make my play partner feel he's special, and I want him to make me feel special too.
LM