A couple of weeks ago, Mrs. Van and I were walking off one of the greens at the local golf course when a very attractive young lady drove up on a refreshment cart. Thinking that a nice, cold beer - or three - wasn't going to hurt the round I was having in the slightest, we walked over to her and I made some really suave comment about how my "second-favorite" lady on the course had dropped by at a most opportune time. Apparently my "delivery" was better than I thought because Mrs. Van actually had a good chuckle over it. (Of course, she had just parred the hole while I bogied it so she could afford to be in a good frame of mind.
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The point is that my wife laughed. There was a time that she might not have been quite so amused. In fact, there would have been a 50/50 chance that she'd have gotten pissed off at my "obvious flirtation" with the "beer-cart girl". Now, you - and everyone else - might say, "You've got to be joking." Let me say, for the record, I'm not. (Also, for the record, the young lady could've driven up naked and I still would have been more interested in that cold beer. It was a hot day and, yes, I'm just as disgusted with myself as the rest of you are.
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In a very roundabout fashion, I'm suggesting that by communicating we've liberated ourselves, and one another. My wife saw the quip for nothing more than what it was. She joined in without feeling slighted, ignored or in danger of being "thrown over" for another woman.
The "testimonials" aside, no one that you would trust on this Board will ever suggest that you
should have sex with anyone but one another. That's up to the two of you to make that choice. And, it's not a choice made by one
or the other but by both of you, for both of you.
Try first to enjoy the "openness" with one another. Let it progress from there.
Best of luck to you both...
Van
P.S. I beat Mrs. Van on two of the last three holes to win the coveted "I-Won-Two-Of-The-Last-Three-Holes" trophy. It's a little-known but highly coveted trophy... Wait a minute...
