[hippiechick]

Thank you all so much for the responce, and I too can talk to much. But what if it is not a fantacy of mine to be with another man or to see my huband with another woman? See, I do like to look, some guys and girls are hot!!! However, it has not realy occured to do them. Don't get me wrong I do sometimes wonder how they are diffrent from my husband and all that, but my mind always goes back to my husband and wanting him. I don't know if that makes sense, I wonder about sex, but I have no desire to do it with some one I don't know or love. Does anyone know what I am saying? And I know it is in a guys nature to want to do other girls and some times a girls nature, but I guess because it has not crossed my mind, I find it hard to understand why he does. I mean, I have all the degrees and took psycology and sociology and all that, I now how the mind works and know that it is easier for men to seperate the two, which is how so many men (and some times women) can cheat on there spouse but still love them very much. But the heart and the mind are two totaly diffrent organs and with me the heart over rules the mind some times, while I know most of the time my husbands penis has the brain power. So is it wrong to say no, if he loves me enough to not do it, shouldn't I love him enough to do it? And I realize you don't realy know untilll you try, but what if you get there and see them and realize you can't what then and how does that effect your marrige because you will always have that image in your mind, and every time you have sex you see him with her and you wounder if he is thinking of some one eles with you ( outside normal fantacy). I just don't know what to do, I want to try, I think I might find I like it but once your there and certain things are done and you were wrong, what then? And is this cheating my husband out of something great, and will he later resent me for holding him back? I want to give him every thing.