[RNDNV]

Depending upon the venue, I think it is a fair thing to say that as much as half, if not slightly more so, are "watchers", "observers" or couples in the process of exploring or outright soft players. Frankly, there is nothing wrong with this. Everyone was a newbie once, and I think sometimes people forget what it was like to have never done swinging before.

Different people need differing amounts of "warm-up" time to the idea of swinging, and frankly, some never make it to actually doing it. I think those that continue to come and put themselves into the space eventually do "cross the line," and for many of those who do, they don't embrace the lifestyle as a way of life, but simply as a temporary foreray into play life. One thing I have come clear about is this, there are many more people who swing or have that potential to do so than we think, AND, there are not as many people who truly swing as we would like to think.

At the end of the day, unless you see people party in an open room environment (which I guess is the very minority preference for most people) no one really knows what goes on behind closed doors, or how many are actually doing it. Frankly, I have met some people who talk a big game and in reality have never played (and I don't think they ever will) and I have met some who come across as downright virginal, only to be the wildest people you ever met once you get them naked behind closed doors.

I stopped trying to guess who the "real players" are a long time ago, and in doing so, have been quite surprised sometimes who we have ended up in bed with. In my estimation, that's half the fun in this game.