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C n' D 4playin · 07-12-2005, 02:33 PM

how odd that i find this thread as i visit here today....after just closing an IM conversation with a "couple" that we had just made contact with last week.
They were listed as not married....but in a "committed relationship"....
It turns out that that situation was a hubby that wasn't quite divorced yet......and the girlfriend that was trying to play along to make him happy.
We don't really know how others define "committed relationship"....but we have learned that it is ambiguous at best.
Thank goodness we got stuff figured out early on without wasting any further time with their situation. We wish them well.........but we are NOT your drama loving therapists..........our time is limited...and we enjoy folks that can get along.
(todays news....."he went back to his wife last night")......sheesh!

I only relate this current situation......to help deliver a point that there may very well be "history" for many folks that have had occasion to be with these "special pairings" and that they......like us....have found them something to be very cautious about.
Not everyone that claims to be to be "non-married but soulmates just the same"...........is.

This is not meant as an indictment of non married couples..........we know some VERY committed folks in that situation....(and we likewise know married folks that don't seem to be too paired).....but it is easy to become a bit cynical after we have had more uncomfortable experiences than comfortable ones. Our guess would be that the folks you are running into have had similar situations.
Fair?........hardly!.........but then....what is?

D

We do NOT worry if someone is married or not...that is just a legal status....but we DO like our partners to be able to relate to a committed relationship.....

07-12-2005, 02:33 PM	#8 (permalink)
C n' D 4playin Active Member Join Date: Jun 2004 Posts: 31 Location: west central ohio Status: married couple (34 fantastic years...she's obviously quite tolerant of his habits) Swing Lifestyle Name:cnd4playin	Re: unmarried couples.. how odd that i find this thread as i visit here today....after just closing an IM conversation with a "couple" that we had just made contact with last week. They were listed as not married....but in a "committed relationship".... It turns out that that situation was a hubby that wasn't quite divorced yet......and the girlfriend that was trying to play along to make him happy. We don't really know how others define "committed relationship"....but we have learned that it is ambiguous at best. Thank goodness we got stuff figured out early on without wasting any further time with their situation. We wish them well.........but we are NOT your drama loving therapists..........our time is limited...and we enjoy folks that can get along. (todays news....."he went back to his wife last night")......sheesh! I only relate this current situation......to help deliver a point that there may very well be "history" for many folks that have had occasion to be with these "special pairings" and that they......like us....have found them something to be very cautious about. Not everyone that claims to be to be "non-married but soulmates just the same"...........is. This is not meant as an indictment of non married couples..........we know some VERY committed folks in that situation....(and we likewise know married folks that don't seem to be too paired).....but it is easy to become a bit cynical after we have had more uncomfortable experiences than comfortable ones. Our guess would be that the folks you are running into have had similar situations. Fair?........hardly!.........but then....what is? D We do NOT worry if someone is married or not...that is just a legal status....but we DO like our partners to be able to relate to a committed relationship..... __________________ The happiness of a man in this life does not consist in the absence but in the mastery of his passions. Alfred Lord Tennyson English poet (1809 - 1892).