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Originally Posted by tomas674 ...why would not being married make a difference? just curious.. |
We never gave much thought to whether a couple was married or just "together & committed to one another" until we played with a few couples where it DID make a difference in the end.
Here are some hitches we ran into with unmarried couples.
In both cases the couples lived in different households. In one case only he could communicate through the ad site. This felt unbalanced, she only got to read our mail and communicate when she was at his house, and that was only once every week or so. They had been dating for over a year. We later found out that her divorce wasn't finalized and she got back with her husband.
The other couple have been together over a decade, we presumed they lived in the same household, turns out they don't and they only allow the other to e-mail with the other present, which means rarely (busy lives and kids in the house who shouldn't see what they are doing online so they have a small window for writing).
In both cases the feeling of communicating
with a couple wasn't there. We now prefer to meet couples who live in the same household. But you don't often know this unless you ask.
We've even been contacted by couples who are married...to other people!
Once we even asked a couple who contacted us "Are you married, to each other?" They took it in good humor. The answer was yes.
It does not matter to us if a couple is married, but if they aren't, we like to get more information on their living situation and a sense of how committed they are to one another.
Some people may have had similar experiences to ours and may be hesitant to get involved with you. Or, don't want to take the time to find out more about you.
LM