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txduo2000 · 07-12-2005, 01:18 PM

The perception from others may be that the commitment level isn’t there, which is not always the case, but is often the perception.

Also, like another poster said, people may think you are in a relationship of convenience in order to swing, rather than a true relationship.

And last, it may be that you are meeting couples who are not secure enough in their own relationship and feel possibly threatened by the jealousy aspect, and the thought that an unmarried couple might somehow interfere with their own relationship.

Personally, I would downplay the unmarried part … just write your profile as normal, just leave out any references to marriage. There are plenty of profiles out there of couples who don’t specify if they are married or single or living together … they are just worded in a way that shows they are “together”.

Of course, when you meet people and if they ask “how long have you been married” you can just say something like, “We aren’t LEGALLY married, but we have been in a committed, exclusive relationship for X years. Our commitment level is not questionable at all.”

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txduo2000 Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Jun 2005 Posts: 662 Location: Dallas TX Area Status: Couple	Re: unmarried couples.. The perception from others may be that the commitment level isn’t there, which is not always the case, but is often the perception. Also, like another poster said, people may think you are in a relationship of convenience in order to swing, rather than a true relationship. And last, it may be that you are meeting couples who are not secure enough in their own relationship and feel possibly threatened by the jealousy aspect, and the thought that an unmarried couple might somehow interfere with their own relationship. Personally, I would downplay the unmarried part … just write your profile as normal, just leave out any references to marriage. There are plenty of profiles out there of couples who don’t specify if they are married or single or living together … they are just worded in a way that shows they are “together”. Of course, when you meet people and if they ask “how long have you been married” you can just say something like, “We aren’t LEGALLY married, but we have been in a committed, exclusive relationship for X years. Our commitment level is not questionable at all.”